fuck you California

yeah, I said it.

SHAME ON YOU.

** will take back it back and welcome you into the fold when you get your head out of your ass.

Well lookie there!

Harris: Gov. John Baldacci signed the legislation shortly after the Maine legislature passed it, making state the fifth to allow same-sex couples to wed.


Hi Maine!!!

We love you too! Welcome to the coolest bunch of states and districts in America! We hope your club won't be quite so exclusive for very long.

Hearts!

Natalie + Harris + Madeline

Ohai!

Hey Washngton DC- 

We love you. Keep up the good work. 

We're happy that you're on board. 

Love! 

Natalie + Harris + The Munch

Logistics of registering a baby

Every year I grow a little less homesick for Atlanta and fall in love with my new home a little more. 7.5 years in to living in North Carolina and I find myself really loving Durham, really loving my neighborhood, really loving just a lot of things. 

Except the quaint little section of the North Carolina statutes that makes our daughter illegitimate. 

Chapter 49: Bastardy

I did get a sick little pleasure out of the thought that Madeline would single handed raise the statistics for bastard girls born in Durham. Nice income, full prenatal care, a momma with a M.A. who didn't smoke or drink while pregnant and a poppa with a B.S. and she was illegitimate!! But I forgot that her being born at the Women's Birth and Wellness Center in Chapel Hill meant that her birth was registered in Orange County, not Durham County.  Now forever her passport will read Chapel Hill, NC, USA.  

Sorry lovey. 

I have to find the affidavit that Harris had to fill out- in triplicate in front of witnesses- to state that he was indeed claiming paternity over our little mite.  

New life

Harris and I have a wonderful new life together.  We've spent the past year working on our house, working on our relationship, and experimenting in genetics. 

This tiny little wonderful perfect fat cheeked bebe is our first attempt at genetics. We're pretty happy with the results. 

9 days and counting

Checklist
1. Power of Attorney
2. Health Power of Attorney
3. Last will and testament (My last testament was not as fulfilling as I thought it would be)
4. Joint Tenancy with Rights of Survivorship comes after mortgage switches from construction to normal.
5. Nice weather- Mostly cloudy with a 20% chance of showers. High 63. Low 37.
6. Pre-Nup.

About #6- Harris and I have told everyone that as soon as LGBT couples can get legally married or committed in the Great State of North Carolina that we will to. This codifies our decision and promise to each other. We will be waiting outside the courthouse on that first morning, waiting to apply for any and all permits, licenses, pacts we need. Marriage Equality will mean that Harris and I get married. Until then, we stay publicly committed to each other.

Things we still need to find:
Notary
Flowers
A kitchen Sink

The Details that follow

Natalie Spring and J. Harris Carpenter request
the pleasure of your company as they celebrate their
mutual commitment to each other.

Join them Saturday the twenty-second of March Two Thousand Eight
Five o'clock in the evening
at SEEDS Garden 706 Gilbert St Durham, North Carolina

Drinks, Dinner, and Dancing to follow at their new home
406 Oakwood Avenue Durham, North Carolina