Go Durham!

Last night, Harris, Madeline and I sat at City Hall for 2.5 hours to see the council vote 7-0 in support of a resolution calling for civil marriage in North Carolina.

We're really happy we call Durham home.

A RESOLUTION IN SUPPORT OF CIVIL MARRIAGE FOR SAME-SEX COUPLES

WHEREAS, The Election Day victories by anti-gay activists in California, Florida, Arizona and Arkansas were a painful reminder that the gay rights movement still faces many challenges; and
WHEREAS, discriminatory marriage laws in the United States deprive same-sex couples of over 1000 federal rights and benefits automatically bestowed by civil marriage including, among others, health care coverage, tax benefits, divorce, domestic violence protections, privileges under immigration and naturalization law, inheritance rights, survivor benefits and child custody; and

WHEREAS, the denial of such benefits has been demonstrated to have significant psychological and social impact on the physical, social, and economic well-being of gay and lesbian couples and their families; and

WHEREAS, the U.S. Supreme Court recognizes marriage as one of the basic civil rights fundamental to our very existence and survival and

WHEREAS, heterosexual relationships have a legal framework for their existence through civil marriage, which provides a stabilizing force. In the United States, with the exception of Massachusetts and Connecticut, same-sex couples are currently denied the important legal benefits, rights and responsibilities of civil marriage. Same-sex couples therefore experience several kinds of state sanctioned discrimination that can adversely affect the stability of their relationships and their mental health; and'

WHEREAS, the love that brings and binds two people of the same, or opposite sex, together transcends gender; and

WHEREAS, as Americans, we must remember a foundational principle of our form of government: all are created equal. Consistent with the pursuit of liberty and justice for all, same-sex couples should have full and equal access to the rights and responsibilities bestowed by civil marriage; and

NOW THEREFORE BE IT RESOLVED that civil marriage for same-sex couples must include all the benefits commonly bestowed upon opposite-sex couples, including, among other rights, healthcare coverage and related decision-making, privileges under immigration and naturalization law, survivor benefits, inheritance rights, and child custody.

BE IT FURTHER RESOLVED, that the City of Durham, endorse and support the rights of same-sex couples to share fully and equally in the rights, responsibilities and commitments of civil marriage.

Crossing fingers for Durham

We live in a progressive town and while we complain about the shenanigans, we are generally happy with where we live.

Tonight our city council is voting to support civil marriage equality. They have the chance to do something really cool. Letters dispatched, emails forwarded, and tonight Madeline gets to attend her first city council meeting.

One day we will have marriage equality. It's fast coming folks!!

Well lookie there!

Harris: Gov. John Baldacci signed the legislation shortly after the Maine legislature passed it, making state the fifth to allow same-sex couples to wed.


Hi Maine!!!

We love you too! Welcome to the coolest bunch of states and districts in America! We hope your club won't be quite so exclusive for very long.

Hearts!

Natalie + Harris + Madeline

Ohai!

Hey Washngton DC- 

We love you. Keep up the good work. 

We're happy that you're on board. 

Love! 

Natalie + Harris + The Munch

Logistics of registering a baby

Every year I grow a little less homesick for Atlanta and fall in love with my new home a little more. 7.5 years in to living in North Carolina and I find myself really loving Durham, really loving my neighborhood, really loving just a lot of things. 

Except the quaint little section of the North Carolina statutes that makes our daughter illegitimate. 

Chapter 49: Bastardy

I did get a sick little pleasure out of the thought that Madeline would single handed raise the statistics for bastard girls born in Durham. Nice income, full prenatal care, a momma with a M.A. who didn't smoke or drink while pregnant and a poppa with a B.S. and she was illegitimate!! But I forgot that her being born at the Women's Birth and Wellness Center in Chapel Hill meant that her birth was registered in Orange County, not Durham County.  Now forever her passport will read Chapel Hill, NC, USA.  

Sorry lovey. 

I have to find the affidavit that Harris had to fill out- in triplicate in front of witnesses- to state that he was indeed claiming paternity over our little mite.  

New life

Harris and I have a wonderful new life together.  We've spent the past year working on our house, working on our relationship, and experimenting in genetics. 

This tiny little wonderful perfect fat cheeked bebe is our first attempt at genetics. We're pretty happy with the results.