Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Why we won't

So when are you getting married?

This past January Harris gave Natalie three lovely rubies and in exchange received a crazy cool Belgian fidget ring. In engagements it seems that once you find out that something will happen, people want to know when. Over and over people asked:

When are you getting married?

This is a simple yet complex question. We will have a ceremony in March 2008. We are scouting locations in Durham, NC. We want to have a simple and fun party to celebrate. We are looking at rings that will match our very different and very beautiful engagement rings. We are deciding where we will go on our honeymoon and what we will do with our cats during that time.

But we are not actually getting married.

We started this blog in order both to articulate and clearly express our thoughts about the inequality of marriage legislation today. There is nothing stopping us from getting legally married. What stops us is our shared disgust that homosexuals are still kept from enjoying the benefits the state confers when a straight couple marry.

We're only occasionally preachy, and Natalie admittedly more so than Harris, but we can't support an institution that discriminates others. We cannot receive the benefits of the institution while claiming that those same benefits are unfair to others. And we are not powerless. We have the institutional support needed to challenge this form of inequality and that's exactly what we plan to do.